Forgiveness Techniques
(Releasing Anger)
Compiled by Dr. Denice Moffat of www.NaturalHealthTechniques.com
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77 Techniques for Anger/Forgiveness
Anger finds a way to express itself!
(No matter how you try to suppress it.)
Introduction:
Let’s look at some of these expressions in the form of signs and symptoms of retained anger and give you some tools you can use to get through and release the anger that may be causing problems in your body. Most of us have some anger within us and some forgiving to do to release it.
Now, I'm the Queen of "Out of the Box" thinking, so these ideas and exercises are not the normal "scream in the pillow" type things to do. One of my favorite people in Nikken has an out of the box thinking story:
"Most people don't know how to think out of the box," Dennis says. They complain that nothing changes. Einstein says that a problem can never be solved at the level of thinking that caused the problem to begin with. "Funny thing is," he continues, "is that the directions to get out of the box are on the OUTSIDE of the box. So, someone that is already on the outside of the box has to read them to you.
I hope that you take some of these directions to heart. I'd like to hear from you when you do. Dr. Denice Moffat: drmoffat@NaturalHealthTechniques.com.
Let's begin:
1. Energy Cyst is a term developed by Dr. John Upledger, www.upledger.com the father of CranioSacral work. Let me tell you the story….
John and a team of healers were doing a workshop for Vietnam vets many years ago. They had made progress on everyone who had attended the workshop except for one person. This man had two houses, a wife and a child. He had two houses because he was afraid that if he was awakened during the night, he would respond by killing the person in bed with him, so he slept in a separate bed in a separate house.
He was laying face up on a treatment table with everyone surrounding him and directing energy into his body when it happened…
A big black blob of energy rose up from his liver like an oozing formless mass of light. Everyone saw it and mouths dropped open and eyes popped. John calmly said, "Let's all direct energy to this thing and intend that it dissolves into neutral energy and disperses into the Universe.
From that day on, the man was fine.
You see, negative emotions are stored in the body and affect all of our cells. When that energy is too strong, the body determines that it can be harmful and it will compact it to the smallest common denominator that it can. Whatever organ is the weakest at the time of the trauma will harbor this energy cyst.
The cysts can be dissolved in many different ways. In my practice, I use a technique called Neuro Emotional Technique (NET: www.netmindbody.com).
2. Rheumatoid Arthritis--I had a woman work for me once that couldn't say "no" to her family. Every day she gave her all to everyone in her family and extended family in her church, but there was nothing left for her self-care. She worried for everybody, but her anger was toward her husband. He had a job, which took him out of town eventually. When he was scheduled to come home, I prepared for my receptionist to call in sick. It happened every time. I knew. So I called her on it one day.
"You know," I said, "Every time your husband gets a weekend off, you get sick. Do you realize that you are doing that to yourself?"
She looked at me as if a light were going on. "You're right!" She said.
We worked long and hard on building self-esteem, teaching her to honor her body and time, and giving her permission and communication skills so that she could say no. She eliminated some things in her life, but just couldn't say no to her family. As she freed up her schedule, they filled it.
As time went on I saw her fingers twist and bend before my very eyes. She now lives on disability.
3. Cancer--holding in anger and resentment for long periods of time literally eats away the body. People with cancer are also very self-critical. They also use the phrase, "I hate that." often. For more metaphors that affect your health, or click here or go to
http://www.naturalhealthtechniques.com/Healing%20Techniques/metaphors1.htm
Now think about that. When you cuss and swear and say things like that, how does that make your body feel? Where do you feel that energy in your being? Directing negative energy to certain body parts makes them sick. I once had a urinary tract infection and was peeing blood for about two months. At the time I was going through a divorce and life was really squeezing me. Let me tell you, love and compassion juice was not coming out of me at that time. In fact, one would be putting their lives into jeopardy just walking down the back roads of my mind. Pretty scary. It was all I could do to attend to business during the day. I could hardly wait to lock the doors and pour myself a stiff drink. All day long I'd tell whoever would listen how "pissed off" I was. It was horrible. I tried cranberry juice. I tried antibiotics. I tried homeopathics. But the thing that worked for me was eliminating the metaphor, "pissed off" from my vocabulary. Once I did that, the urinary tract infection vanished in two days.
If you’d like to read more on the core causes of Cancer, click here or go to: http://www.naturalhealthtechniques.com/Specific%20Diseases/cancer1.htm
4. Fibromyalgia. A large part of fibromyalgia is caused, in part, by harboring anger and resentment. The people I see with this disease can't say no and feel like people in their lives ask them to do more than they have energy for, time for or things they do not enjoy doing. They are not doing their Life Purpose, which is doing those things that make you happy, excited and that you can do for hours at a time without noticing. For more on Life Purpose and how to find it: click here or use the link
http://www.naturalhealthtechniques.com/Coaching%20Corner/life_purpose1.htm
These people get to the point where something has to change and it does. They build up so much pain in their bodies that they feel they can say no because of their condition. These are the type of people who would be mortified to hurt your feelings.
Having a disabling disease is a way not to hurt people’s feelings. Now, this is a difficult syndrome to overcome. There are other core causes to this disease which we can eliminate, minimize, or manage, but the hardest part is to work through the emotional issues. Most people with fibro aren't willing to do it. Sometimes we just need to honor their path. People just do the best they can.
5. High Blood Pressure is a sign of a sick liver. Of course your blood pressure always rises when you are having an argument. To read more on the many, many causes of high blood pressure or hypertension, click here or go to: http://www.naturalhealthtechniques.com/Specific%20Diseases/high_blood_pressure1.htm .
A business partner of mine took up to eight Tylenol per day to control his pain. At night he took Tylenol PM. Tylenol is one of many many drugs that are processed through the liver. Now, the liver meridian we have learned by studying Eastern medicine peaks from 1am to 3am.
My partner was unable to control his blood pressure. He had lots of old hurts that he wasn't about ready to let go of. "Never forgive, never forget" I would call him. We tried several supplements, but they didn't work. He was getting too big a payoff having his clients feel sorry for him. That was his way of getting the attention that he so desperately needed his whole life. He grew up in a fundamentalist Christian family. They went to church on Sundays, he went to church school every day and got a beating every night by either his mother or father. Usually that was with a stick or a belt. Many times he did nothing to deserve the beatings.
When asked by his doctor what medications he was taking he told them, “none.” He did not consider Tylenol a medication, because he had taken it for years for his back pain. I think that is one reason why so many people I see that are on blood pressure medication never seem to get on the right one. Their doctor never really gets to the core cause of the problem, so it's just a hit and miss operation.
And which comes first? Is it the liver overload that caused the anger or the anger that caused the liver overload? Sometimes it's hard to tell, but one thing I know for sure . . . When you give the body what it needs, it usually responds. There are also many ways to approach the healing process. A person needs to find the way that they feel comfortable with and start making changes and shifts within the lifestyle.
6. Liver Disease: Liver disease can include cirrhosis, high cholesterol, abnormal liver enzymes, swollen livers, and more. The liver is the organ of anger and resentment.
7. Energy meridians each have their cycle and this cycle lasts for two hours. If your Liver meridian is off and out of balance, you will wake up at 1am and not be able to get back to sleep until 3am. People who have an imbalanced liver meridian lie in bed and stew on things. They build pressure up like a pressure-cooker ready to blow a gasket. This is typical with many cancer patients who have an emotional component to their disease. So…12 hours opposite that would be a low energy time. These people tend to get sleepy after lunch or need a can of pop or a cup of coffee to overcome their low energy. Another indication of the liver being overloaded is red rims at the tip of your fingernails. For a deeper analysis of this, click here or go to: http://www.naturalhealthtechniques.com/Exam%20Forms%20-%20Medical%20Intuitive/fingernail_analysis.htm
8. Smoking
(anger
against a parent) In her
book, "You Can Heal Your Life
We were discussing this concept at a breakfast meeting with a group of friends one time. There were about 10 people at the meeting. It got them to thinking. Those that had smoked at one time conceded that this could be true. All who had smoked and had quit had forgiven their parents in some form or another.
"That's not true!" said one woman. She proceeded to tell us how great her relationship had been with her parents. Her sister (in her late 60's) silently shook her head. Arlene went on to describe her relationship with her parents. We all knew Arlene's history and knew that Arlene was quite the hellion in her day. She was a recovering alcoholic and drug addict, and even had a couple of tattoos. The table started to laugh and call her on it, but she was in denial. The group had a new perspective on smoking from that day forward.
9. Alcohol Addiction: This is a tricky one. Which came first, the anger causing the drinking or the drinking causing the anger because drinking trashes your liver? The only thing that really matters is that you find ways to resolve the issues or manage them.
10. Abscesses--Anger in relation to something you don't want to release. A boil is considered a localized abscess. I once knew of a man who had boils all over his face and chest. His mother had given him to his grandparents to raise and his father had abandoned him. He was a cowboy, and as the song goes, "Mommas don't let your babies grow up to be cowboys. They are never at home, they are always alone, even with someone they love." He grew up a cowboy and eventually became a counselor. My theory is that he was trying to understand and come to some kind of completion with his own relationships. He was the quiet type, so the anger had to come out of his body in some way. Anger in his body just chose the skin route. The body always chooses the easiest way to release dis-ease. Each of us has a route that we have a predisposition for to release pent up emotions.
11. Conjunctivitis--Anger and frustration at what you are looking at in life. I once knew a woman who had three children with chronic conjunctivitis. The house was a pig-sty; there was a never ending process of stray animals going through her home. She was always putting ads in the paper to sell or trade them. When she needed something to sell fast, she would put an ad in the paper saying, "Mother desperate. Husband left me with 4 children." or some such immoral type of ad. This mother had few coping skills. She was actually an undiagnosed bi-polar person at that time. The father was a workaholic. The tax people were always on top of them. Just as he had his tax files organized (they were in the trunk of his car), the car caught fire and burned everything up. Their lives were one drama and trauma after another. One daughter in particular was very rebellious. She was only five when I knew her. Her mom had a way of dealing with it though with the help of "Mr. Hand," she called her spatula. So, what was it in the lives of these children that they did not want to see? Get the picture? This happens with ear aches and chronic ear infections as well.
12. Earaches--A sign that there is anger in what is being heard. As Louise Hay asks, "What is it in your life that you do not want to hear?" Is it people yelling or forcing ideas on you that run against your morals and values and true Life Purpose? If so, work to minimize, eliminate, or manage the time you spend with these people.
13. Mastoiditis (infections in the inner ear)-- I once attended a veterinary continuing education seminar down in Las Vegas. A prominent surgeon was giving the lecture. What a booming voice he had. I sat there fascinated as I watched the “show.” He would say in a voice of about 250 decibles, "Get a pen out and write this down!"
Now, I noticed that about 20 percent of the audience was over the age of 65 (probably retired from private practice,) yet they practically jumped out of their chairs as they dug around frantically searching for a pen! I was thinking of this "not wanting to hear concept" taught to me by Louise Hay as he was lecturing on how to cut the ear canal out as a treatment for chronic infection of the ears. "Hmm. I wonder if there is an association."
During the lecture, he told us about his daughter and how she was always having ear problems as she was growing up. Just a never-ending stream of ear challenges. …Duh. That's often what happens with the "Children should be seen and not heard” theory type of child-rearing.
14. Gout is a sign of anger. It is also a symptom of needing to dominate and a symptom of impatience. Gout is the inability to process certain proteins called purines. When the purines build up in the muscle fibers, the joints get inflamed, swollen and extremely painful. Gout really responds to diet, but if you don't let go of the anger, it has a tendency to come back year after year. I see this condition often when the tomatoes become ripe on the vine each year. To read more on the causes of gout and which foods to eat or avoid: http://www.naturalhealthtechniques.com/Specific%20Diseases/gout1.htm
15. Hemorrhoids result from holding onto past angers and being afraid to let go of them. I have many clients with hemorrhoids. That topic doesn't usually come up until they feel comfortable with me, but many of these anger-related disease processes have their seat in the liver. Liver is the organ that harbors anger and resentment.
16. Allergies are most always a sign of an overloaded liver. Sinus allergies may mean challenges with how you feel about yourself. Eczema often has to do with unexpressed disruptive emotions.
17. Glaucoma is a sign of an overloaded liver or a symptom the body puts forth in relation to what is in the person’s life that they don’t want to see. It represents stony unforgiveness, pressure from long-standing hurts and a feeling of being overwhelmed by it all.
18. Varicose Veins are also a sign of liver problems and retained anger/resentment of standing in a situation you hate. Feeling discouraged, overworked and overburdened.
There are some very effective treatments for liver-associated anger which you will read about later. Some that aren’t mentioned are herbal-oriented (horse chestnut, burdock root and silymarin) or have to do with magnetic field therapy.
To read more on magnetic field repair, go to:
http://www.naturalhealthtechniques.com/Basics%20of%20Health/magnetic_field_repair.htm
19. Leukorrhea (white cells in your urine): This usually happens with the female gender. Many of us have been raised with the understanding that we must "service" our mates. Leukorrhea happens with the belief that women are powerless over the opposite sex. It happens when they are angry at their mates. Because they were raised in this belief process, they feel they can't really say no to sexual advances, so it comes out in the body where the anger is harbored. Yeast infections, sexually transmitted diseases, vaginal warts, endometriosis, and pelvic inflammatory disease are all signs that there may not be good boundaries or communication in relationships with the opposite sex.
20. Osteomyelitis:
Anger and frustration at the very structure of life. Feeling unsupported.
Dr. Bernie Siegel
So one day Dr. Siegel finally relented to the x-ray to placate his son. Low and behold, the boy had bone cancer. The cancer was very aggressive and the typical starburst pattern was evident.
Shocked was not the word to describe the situation. Had he only listened to his son from the beginning! The guilt he felt was overwhelming. Well, Dr. Siegel used this experience and learned from it. Now he listens to his patients. He organized a group called ECaP. This organization studies those common threads of surviving cancer patients. ECaP stands for Exceptional Cancer Patients.
21. Planters Warts: Represent anger at the very basis of your understanding. They represent spreading frustration having to do with the future.
Kyle was eight years old with a big case of planters’ warts. His mother tried various treatments, but they never went away. I wonder why?
His father was an alcoholic. His mother had left his father after a fight where she had tried to call the police and he had shot the telephone out of her hand. The weekend visitations to his father’s house left his mind putrefied with negative thoughts that he was too small to communicate and work through.
I did as much as I could by supporting him in learning how to muscle test. This technique empowers children. For a very complete handout on muscle testing, go to: http://www.naturalhealthtechniques.com/Basics%20of%20Health/muscle_testing.htm
After much personal work, Kyle's mother magnetized into her life a very special man. He was also an exceptional friend to Kyle. Someone to whom Kyle could work through his anger issues with because the lines of communication were always kept open. They often worked on issues as they came up. Soon after his mom and stepfather married, the warts went away.
22. Migraine headaches can often be created by people who want to be perfect and who create a lot of pressure on themselves.
I can remember one case in particular. Candy thought she could be the perfect wife, the perfect mother, the perfect stepmother and the perfect while fulfilling the perfect employee model. She was stressed out at work, at home with her relationships with her children and with her ex-husband, who lived in the same town.
The headaches would start with trigger point cramping in her neck. The cramping was so severe, that chiropractic treatment was impossible. Her chiropractic treatments consisted of putting a heat lamp on the area and hoping the muscles would relax enough to have her neck adjusted.
Instead of attending to the core issue of emotions, which she was not willing to let go of, she opted for heavy-duty pain-killing shots. Letting go of the emotions at that point in her life would mean going into areas she was not willing to go into. She was also getting much-needed attention and gentleness with her condition.
Big pay off for her. Big. She did not feel worthy enough to ask for what she needed so she created a situation where it would be obvious to her husband that he needed to honor and care for her in her delicate state.
See? We have to be ready to let go. For her, this was an area of fear. What if she was not able to do that perfectly? What if she could not control her anger and not be the sweet girl she was trying to be for everybody? Oh well…We all need to honor people in where they are on their path of healing. If we can help them and they are open to it, then that is a good match. If we can't, we need to bless them and set them free. Eventually they will get what they need and learn the lessons they need to learn. To read more about the core causes of headaches, click here, or go to: http://www.naturalhealthtechniques.com/Specific%20Diseases/headaches1.htm.
23. Sore throats (which are in the fifth chakra) are associated with anger and not standing up for our rights, swallowed anger, and stifled creativity.
For specific exercises to heal the fifth chakra, go to: http://www.naturalhealthtechniques.com/Basics%20of%20Health/chakra_system.htm
24. Laryngitis ( a disruption of the fifth chakra)--so angry that you cannot speak
25. Are you accident prone? Accidents are and expression of anger. They indicate build-up frustrations at not feeling the freedom to speak up for the self. They can also be rebellion against authority. When we feel like we need to be punished, subconsciously we put ourselves into situations where we get hurt.
26. Boils are indicative of seething, boiling-over anger.
27. Bruises represent the little bumps in life and self-punishment.
28. Cuts sometimes represent punishment of the self for not following our own rules.
29. Fevers indicate “burning up” with anger.
30. Sores represent unexpressed anger settling in.
31. Anything ending in “itis” represents anger and frustration about conditions you are looking at in your life.
32. Any kind of inflammation represents “inflamed” thinking and seeing red about things.
33. Herpes Sores: One of the most common signs I see of anger and holding your words back are herpes sores on the lips. Once the person says what they need to say, the sores go away. Certain personality types get them over and over, until they learn that they need to speak their truth. Who do you know that has this? Do you? You know, you don't have to talk to the person you are mad at all the time. You can just talk it out in the car when you are alone. By doing this you prevent energy cysts from building up in your mouth area.
34. Halitosis: There once was a woman who had terrible breath. It was uncomfortable to be around her. One the outside she was trying very hard to be a minister, but on the inside she was raging with anger when anyone would threaten her position. Not a good place to be when you are a minister and being challenged all the time. Because she couldn't express that anger outwardly, it seated deep within her and came out anyway…through her breath.
77 Techniques to Release Anger:
Great Reading for Follow-up and Follow-through!
ANGER RELEASE TECHNIQUES:
1. Neuro Emotional Technique (NET) can perform miracles on a person.
Case Study involving NET: Jessica, age 9, came to me with her mother to help her with a terrible skin problem. Her skin was so crusty on her face that she looked like an elephant. As we went through the exam process, it became evident that the core cause of her problem was emotional. To find a practitioner in your area, go to the Neuro Emotional Technique website: www.netmindbody.com
So, I started the process of emotional clearing. As I continued with the muscle-testing process, I noticed that Jessica was mimicking my hand movements.
Now I knew that this was going to take a lot of emotional processing for her to heal. I also knew that money was an issue for them. So I decided I would teach Jessica to do this emotional clearing process. One thing though…she was not able to follow the flow of the process. So, her mother read the flow chart and Jessica did the testing part. Her mother couldn't muscle test because she thought she would mess up. Kids don't look at it that way. To them, it's a game.
A couple of months and lots of phone calls later Jessica and her mom came in for something else. I recognized the mom, but I did not recognize the little girl who gleefully said, "Hi Dr. Moffat!"
Let me tell you it was a miracle. Her face was pure and clean and smooth. I did not even know who this girl was. Amazing. Ahh, the power of emotional release work.
Another use for NET:
Find someone who looks like the person you are angry with. Looking at someone who looks similar to a person you are holding anger and resentment against can stimulate the release of neurotransmitters which irritate your internal organs . . . like the liver, which is the organ most often associated with anger. As you stare at them or a picture of the offensive being, have a qualified specialist do emotional clearing work on you. My favorite technique is Neuro Emotional Technique. To learn more about that technique, go to: www.netmindbody.com
2. The Hit List: NET works really well for anger against a spouse or other relationships. I usually have people bring to me what I call "The Hit List". Now the list is just a card or paper with a list of all the things the person did or consistently does that ticks you off or rubs you the wrong way, because you know what? It's not really about them, it's about you!
My husband, Michael used to be a client of mine. He's experienced enough of this technique that he knows how to use it pretty well. He comes to me occasionally and asks me to clear something for him. So, I get my charts out and ask, "OK, what do you need to clear?"
"I have the topic in mind." He says. Well, I know enough to know that the topic he wants to clear is somehow associated with something I did that set him off.
I don't have to know what that is, because it's really not about me. It's about him and how he handles situations. It's about his perspective on life and how he sees life. So I clear it, he thanks me and we go on with our day. I do the same when he does something that sets me off.
I've been clearing issues for over a decade now. And I still have more to clear. I go in spurts because the body can only handle so much progress and release at one time. Because of this we have a fantastic relationship. And I'm worth it.
3. Emotional Remedies: Another way to release anger is by using Emotional Remedies from Professional Health Formulations. These are homeopathic, liquid remedies that you put under your tongue when anger or other emotions come up. What I love about these remedies is that they work very quickly. Within about 10 minutes you can feel the negative emotions just dissolve and go away.
Could you use Emotional Remedies as your only healing technique? Maybe not, but Emotional Remedies are a good place to start. They are cheap and effective. One bottle runs about $13. Your best bet is the Liver formula.
4. Music for the Support of Anger Release:
Song: Karen Drucker Songs of the Spirit II (www.KarenDrucker.com)
"Healed, Whole and Healthy"
"We Are All Angels"
"Holy, Holy, Holy"
Song: Karen Drucker "I Send My Love" from Songs of the Spirit
Song: Karen Drucker "Loving Kindness" from Songs of the Spirit
Song: "Set Them Free" from Delphy's Ocean Born album.
Song: Daniel Namhod "Years to my Life" from the album One Power (www.DanielNahmod.com)
Song: "The Eyes of God" by Scott Kalechstein on the Eyes of God album. (www.scottsongs.com)
Song: Willard Barth "Coming Home" from the album Coming Home (www.WillardBarth.com)
5. Decide to change: You decide…is it easier to keep the anger inside you? Is it serving you in some way? Are you ready to release it? Change is inevitable, Growth is optional.
An elderly Cherokee Native American was teaching his grandchildren about life.
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He
said to them, "A fight is going on inside me, it is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One wolf is evil---he is fear, anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment,
inferiority, lies, false pride, competition, superiority, and ego.
The other is good --he is joy, peace, love, hope, sharing, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, friendship, empathy,
generosity, truth, compassion and faith.
This same fight is going on inside you, and inside every other person, too."
They thought about it for a minute and then one child asked his
grandfather, "Which wolf will win?"
The Elder simply replied, "The one you feed."
7. 40-Day fast.
Make a commitment to yourself to give up self-recrimination and doubt and thoughts of anger and resentment for 40 days. It doesn't have to be associated with
Passover, and you don't have to be Catholic to do this 40-day fast. Get a support group together and make that commitment to check in regularly during your fast. Better yet, do it with a partner.
8. Massage is and excellent way to get the anger out of your system which builds up as knots in muscles, spasms and irritated trigger points. In general:
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q If the problems are associated with men then tension builds on the right side.
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q If associated with women, the issues/challenges are on the left side.
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q The buttocks area is associated with past issues.
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q Above the right knee is the family dynamics triangle.
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q The outside thigh hurts when there are things you don't care everyone knows about.
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q The inside thigh hurts when you are holding in or suppressing things you are ashamed of.
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q Calves? Children. Right calf male, left calf is female.
9. State your feelings, e.g. "I am angry about this!" To begin forgiveness, you must feel the anger, express it in a healthy way, talk about it, then let if go. When we hold the pain in, our lives are in dis-ease. So when we feel that lump in our throats that we suppress and shove back down, this only makes matters worse. The trick here is to not pitch your tent in the anger camp and stay there. Sometimes it is not safe to express your emotions, especially if you are in an abusive relationship. The good news is that you don’t have to talk to THEM to get the benefits in YOUR body. Talk it out to someone else. If you are in an abusive situation, you may want to check out your local chapter of Non-Violent Communication.
Stand in front of a mirror.
Say, "I'm ready to change"
How does that make you feel?
If you feel uncomfortable about that, ask yourself “why?”
Now say,
"(Insert your name here), I love you. What can I do to make you happy today?"
Can you say that?
What does your subconscious tell you to do?
Where do you feel the guidance that is related to good choices? It will center at a place on your body somewhere. For each person, it may be different. I feel my ego talk down the center of my body. My intuition comes in from behind my right ear.
It’s your job to do what that still small voice inside tells you to do.
Discover what is holding you back from accepting your Greater Good.
11. Buddha says, "An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind."
12. Bumper Sticker Philosophy:
q Church is to Religion as Bumper Stickers is to Philosophy.
q Don't get, mad get even.
q If you don't like my driving, then stay off the sidewalks.
q Are you creating enemies faster than you can kill them?
q Do you sometimes feel like a fire hydrant starring at a pack of dogs?
q What if hate was the only enemy?
q The mind is like a parachute. It only functions when open.
q We Create What We Hate.
q Energy Flows where the Concentration Goes.
13. Good affirmations: An affirmation is a phrase, sentence, or grouping of words that are said out loud once, or several times a day preferably for 30 consecutive days. By saying an affirmation out loud, it trains your nervous system and body to come into alignment with the words.
Affirmations should always be designed in the positive (do not use "not or no" words.) Your body manifests everything you think about and does not acknowledge the word "not or no." So, if you are focused on fear, you will manifest things to be fearful about.
Affirmations are a way to distract the mind from thinking negatively. Making positive affirmations is kind of tricky. Run your affirmations and written words by one who will help you make it perfect and positive for you. Don’t ask a negative person to do this. You can also use one or many of the affirmations I have listed in my Money Affirmations page, or use these affirmations:
q Something wonderful is about to happen.
q I am worthy, I am worthy, I AM worthy.
q I bless this situation and set it free to make room for bigger and better things in my life
Affirmations: If they don't work, you need to take another step before doing the affirmations. Use the Affirmation:
“I am willing to release that pattern within me that is creating this condition. The past if over and I am free.”
14.
Choose Peace:
There is an affirmation in A Course in Miracles
This is particularly true of the relationships with our parents. Mary says, "We cannot hope to have a deep, lasting, fulfilling relationship with another human being when we resent or hate one of our parents. That hatred is like venom that leaks out into every other relationship. We don't know everything our parents endured; we can't possibly."
15.
The Eyes of Jesus.
When
Marianne Williamson
Now, you may not be a very good actor and you may not have Jesus in your belief system, but I bet you know of someone who is filled with compassion and love although life squeezes them sometimes. So pretend that they are inhabiting your body for a while. I do that when I am doing Reiki on my clients and supplements. I pretend to have the hands of the strongest hands on healer that I know.
16. Don't let people rent "head space." I picked this technique up from a segment Candid Camera did many years ago. In this particular segment of the show filmed in New York, an actor was behind the counter of a drugstore. On the front of the counter a sign read, "We don't give change." People would come up to the counter with their purchase and set it on the counter. The clerk would take their money and put the item in the bag. When the customer complained about not getting their change, the clerk would point to the sign, "We don't give change." Of course Candid Camera was filming all the reactions. That was quite a show.
Well, one gentleman had put his purchase on the counter which added up to under two dollars and he gave the clerk a $20 bill. When this man asked for his change, the clerk pointed to the sign, "We don't give change." The man said, "Oh. OK." and walked out.
Wow. Of course that prompted Candid Camera to interview the man. How could he leave that much change and not have a problem with it? His answer…
"Sir, I've spent so much money over the years on psychologists, psychoanalysts and psychiatrists that I've learned not to let people rent space in my head if I don't have to. I don't rent people a lot of head space anymore and I didn't think that the $18 in change was worth the rent."
Remember that you are the only person who thinks in your mind. You are the power and authority in your world.
17. Don't believe everything you think! We are bombarded with thousands of negative thoughts every day. On the other hand, we don't hear that many positive things and most of us have brains that do dwell on stuff that we are always making up that never seems to happen. It's called MSU (Making Stuff Up). When we become more aware of our thoughts, we can start weeding them out and planting good thoughts. For more on the power of listening, check into Carol McCall's Empowerment of Listening courses.
This poem is posted in my exam room:
18. The Heart’s Garden
The heart is a garden where thought flowers grow;
The thoughts that we think are the seeds that we sow.
Every kind, loving thought bears a kind, loving deed;
While a thought that is selfish is just like a weed.
We must watch what we think, each minute, all day;
And pull out the weed thoughts and throw them away;
And plant loving seed thoughts so thick in a row
That there will not be room for weed thoughts to grow.
By Katherine Merrill.
1. Center yourself, take a few deep breaths.
2. Pick a cloud to melt. (I usually pick a smaller cloud, but of the same size of several other clouds in the sky.)
3. Place the palms of your hands in the direction of the cloud.
4. Breathe in deep the essence of God.
5. As you breathe out breathe hot air into the cloud.
6. Visualize it melting away.
7. Feel the heat come out of your hands and stick to the cloud.
8. The cloud will melt in 3-10 minutes.
Now, if you can do that to a cloud, how could you doubt the power of prayer?
Choose your thoughts, and where you put them, wisely.
Reference: Taken from Strangers Among Us
20. Become Aware then Let It Go. Awareness is the first step in healing and changing.
q Do you bring up things often having to do with anger?
q Do you attract angry people and angry friends?
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